Expectations Can Lead to Disappointment

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Expecting great things to happen is a wonderful and empowering way to live life. Especially when you think about the alternative which brings about fears and anxiety and a feeling of powerlessness, like you have no control over what happens in your life.

However, often we can set ourselves up to experience disappointment when we have certain expectations of others.

What I have come to know about life is that people will often surprise you. The people you may think are great support to you simply can’t show up when a crisis hits or even a small bump in the road. This can be heart wrenching if you allow yourself to stay focused on the lack. What I choose to do and I guide others to do is focus on, and be grateful for those wonderful human beings who can show up, those that offer compassion, tolerance and acceptance of your journey, your difficulties and your suffering, are truly a blessing.

This can be a difficult and a challenging mind shift but one that when achieved will dramatically affect your experience.

I have witnessed this recently whilst supporting my youngest son through a very challenging time after a snowboarding accident. His world and career have been deeply affected by this event and watching the lack of support from some of his friends has been a harsh reality for him. He has however been able to witness and appreciate the few wonderful young men who have shown up for him and they truly are a blessing to him and his recovery.

We cannot control what others do; we can have an expectation of great things and a great outcome by surrendering to how that looks and be open to the gifts that life offers.

“I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped.” Gestalt prayer

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