What do I want?

Such a simple question however if you are like me this has been incredibly confronting and has taken me quite a bit of stripping away to get to my deep truth of ‘WHAT I WANT”.

Being a mother, a daughter, a wife,  business partner, a support person, a community member, and a chairperson, I could easily and quickly tell you what each of the people or organisations I was part of wanted but when I posed the question to myself, as a woman without all those hats, I came up blank.

I was horrified, as I searched inside myself I couldn’t find the part of me that said” My list of wants”. As a coach i felt somewhat  negligent that I had overlooked this. I did find some relief as I discussed this with some of my woman friends and peers, I found it was in fact quite common.

Since then I have been on a mission of delving behind all the roles I play and have played to get to the essence of me, the truth of what I want. Part of this process has been making lists of desires and then asking myself “ why do I want that” . I have found this to be very revealing as it exposes when I am wanting for someone else or to match someone else’s idea of me. This of course is a work in progress however I feel connected to my list of wants and desires and the reasons why I want to achieve them and from that list I create my goals.

My main want, like many of us is to make a difference. I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to do this as part of all my roles and in my coaching practise and personal development business.

“ There is no one who does you like you do you, so be the best you that you can be” Rachael Bermingham 



3 thoughts on “What do I want?

  1. You are definitely not alone. With all the hats that we all wear, it feels like we spend most of our time catering to the wants of everyone else or what do I need to do to be “good” or “great” at each role. That leaves little time if you don’t stop to figure out what it is that you want.

    I have been working on the same thing. Figure out the why of why you want something is so important. I have been taking it one more step and trying to figure out what it will feel like if I got _____. Some times we think we want someone because the idea has been planted in our heads by society, other people, etc.

    Thanks for sharing and reminding me that I am not alone.

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