Stuff happens! Life is certainly not “a bed of roses” all the time, however there are ways we can stay the course, stay on track and not collapse into a heap which can take us days, weeks, months to recover from.
Like most, I have had my fair share of adversity throughout my life and perhaps as a small child, more than my fair share. In the early days I chose either to escape my difficulties with various methods or get angry. Gradually, as I became an avid student of personal development I learned techniques to acknowledge and accept what was current but not to limit my life because of it. Below are some of the ways I use to stay on course.
Here are my tips:
* Acknowledge the adversity – stop avoiding and simply accept the current. Denying the reality only prolongs the agony. I find journaling a wonderful tool for this, just simply allowing the words to flow, unedited on to the paper which allows me to get to the root of what is really bothering me and stops the endless churning of it in my head.
* Shift to “what I want”, focus in on your goals or desired outcome. What do you want to bring about in your life; are there action steps you can take to move you closer to this? Sometimes the only action step you can take is to visualise what you want. The important message here is to stop focussing on the adversity, this means stop talking about it, stop thinking about it and stop complaining about it. If you have to, allow yourself a set time each day to do the thinking, complaining, worrying (keep this brief – 10 minutes) and then focus on the creation of your desires.
* Get in touch with your future self, your higher self, that wise version of yourself that has already not only survived the adversity, she/he has kicked the goal. Check in with her, ask her for advise, you will be amazed and what support and encouragement you receive from doing this.
* Count your wins – look back at the success you have had, remember how you felt and what it took for you to achieve this. Look each day for small wins e.g. got out of bed! Wrote that blog, did that paper work. Start focusing on your achievements no matter how small, this will help you to feel more inspired and motivated, it’s even great to share your wins with girlfriends or mates.
* Know your why! – why do you want what you want? Knowing this clearly and passionately will keep you moving forward when the obstacles appear.
I hope you find these tips useful, the important message is to apply them to your life and notice the difference, mix this with gratitude and life will head in the direction you desire.
I finish with a quote that helps me by M.Scott Peck .
Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult–once we truly understand and accept it–then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.