Leaving The Herd

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
Friedrich Nietzsche





When I learned this concept, I breathed a sigh of relief. I remember thinking, all these years that I felt like the “odd one”, it actually is a empowering quality.


My kids still refer to me affectionately as a hippie I suppose that came from sending them to a Steiner school whilst living in a very conservative small country town, this was looked at as rather odd. However I made that choice because I hadn’t had a great experience of our public education system and I wanted my kids to know it is important to think for themselves and have dreams and go after them.


As you can imagine I soon stopped being asked out to the usual woman’s luncheons and evening dinner parties which to be honest rather pleased me as I found it very tedious sitting around  with  a bunch of woman talking about their material wealth, I would rather know what they really thought or better still how  they felt about important topics like how can we positively affect the world.

Going through my personal development exercise recently I realised that leaving the herd not only meant not being influenced and buying into the group mentality by hanging out with people who consider me a rebel, it is also about leaving behind my own limiting beliefs.

Beliefs that I have been living by that no longer serve me and that are holding me back from being the woman I choose to be.

This was a revelation and I almost feel like I’m busting out of chains that have been weighing me down for a very long time, very freeing indeed.


I happy to say that I no longer look at being “odd” in a negative way, I also don’t consider myself a hippie, I see myself more as an empowered entrepreneur who has her heart set on being all she can be to make a difference and support others on their individual journey.

Are you hiding in the herd? I would love to here how this resonates or not, with you.


One thought on “Leaving The Herd

  1. Nice post, and nice pictures as well. I’ll tell you, my first reaction was to relate your experience with breaking away from the herd, to my experience with discovering Unitarian Universalism. I expect that sounds counter intuitive: to compare the experience of an organized religious group with that of breaking away from the herd. I had spent my life feeling like the odd one in most groups, including my own family. When I found the UU church in my hometown I was very much drawn to the principles of the church which promoted individual expression. More than that, I found the people of the church actually practiced those principles. I felt accepted for who I am in ways I had never experienced before.

    My second reaction was more current, and in some ways more personal. I’ve recently moved from my hometown, where I’d lived for a half century, to a new town and state. I moved to be near my grown child who needed my assistance in a way that couldn’t be accomplished from afar. Here I am without a single friend, and without a job. I’m challenged to find my way anew. In a lot of ways it’s very lonely and frightening. Yet, even under this high degree of stress I feel in many ways freed by my circumstances. I am free to redefine myself, to meet people as I am rather than someone defined by my reputation or obligations.

    I’ve given up a lot to take on this journey, namely my financial security, my support network built over a lifetime, a lot of creature comforts that come from living in a hometown for a half century. I miss those things often. I’m new enough to this new place that I haven’t begun to replace those things, and still I feel a new sense of freedom that is comforting in itself.

    This is a process about which I have not drawn any conclusions. I am challenged to stay open to it and your post seems to affirm my being in the process.

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