It is true that life is a journey and it doesn’t matter how much work we may have done on ourselves, the letting go rituals, the journaling, the venting, the healing, the catharting there will pop up from time to time the opportunity to forgive – that guarded piece of hurt that we have held on to for goodness knows why.
Recently I experienced one of those wonderful opportunities – the universe let me know, in its lovely way that there were in fact 2 woman from my past that it was time to let go and move on. Of course I didn’t consciously know I had not forgiven them however the deeper part of me did and the holding on to the wound was in some small way holding me back from the freedom I truly desire.
I was sitting with my one of my sons when “randomly” , what seemed out of the blue one of the woman appeared – she didn’t notice me – however it brought to the surface the incident I was holding on to, almost simultaneously I had the thought ( inspiration) what was I upset bought and that it was time to let this go – my mind them led me another woman with the same name as the first and a larger more recently wound rose to the surface. I knew then that this was a gift for me – the gift of forgiveness.
I did my forgiveness ritual and it felt so right to not be carrying this around anymore.
I have a lovely forgiveness exercise that I have included here for you – just in case you have some letting go to do. Do You?
Forgiveness Ceremony – to be performed in nature if possible-
You will need – paper and pen –
Sit quietly and bring your awareness to your breath – centre yourself and ask yourself “what is my deepest truth about ……………… (The person or people you are to forgive), keep asking that question until information comes; I usually know I am in the deepest truth when I begin to feel emotion, trust yourself to know this point.
Taking your pen and paper – write – Dear ………… (the person you are wanting to forgive) and write no editing – write until you cannot write anymore, write until forgiveness comes. If you don’t feel like you can forgive the person, there is more to get off your chest. For some, this may take more than one session. Once you have reached forgiveness write a second letter this time writing – Dear …… I forgive you………………., simple allow whatever needs to come, come.
After you have completed this process – it’s now time to forgive yourself – take another piece of paper and write a letter to yourself – Dear Me – I forgive you ……………
When this is complete close your eyes and notice how your body is feeling.
Give yourself an inner hug to acknowledge what you have bravely achieved and give thanks for your beautiful surroundings and you may like to set an intention for yourself. An example of an intention might be ‘even though …… doesn’t understand the way I choose to live my life, I appreciate them in my life and I love them as they are”.
I usually like to play a beautiful piece of music at this point to close my ceremony and then sit and observe for a little while.